It’s official. The female relationship bible has condemned traditional romance and monogamy. Cosmo now claims that more women then ever are cheating on significant others. (This is if you can find someone that wants to be mutually exclusive.) But, who can really blame these women when all anyone seems to care about anymore is getting more. We are a generation of the “gimmie, gimmie, gimmie” mentality. We want to take as much as possible and gratify ourselves to the point of morality exploding. Self-respect, hurled right out the window for a nice piece of ass. Please pardon my candidness. But, I believe the blunter I am the better.
This type of behavior makes me want to smack these people over the head with a whack-a-mole mallet. Where is the depth and character that makes up being human? Have most of us decided that animal instincts dominate wit? Are those of us that value healthy intact relationships doomed to walk the earth disappointed and disillusioned? My sources sadly point to yes.
Real change only occurs when a person chooses to take action and responsibility for poor decisions. This lady has been hurt time and time again. So much so, that at times life seems completely dismal and pointless. I think this is a totally normal reaction to the lack of caring in the world today. How can anyone have a Disney-animated sing-song happy attitude 24/7 with bad vibes in the very air we breathe? I wouldn’t be surprised if these negative toxins floating around cause much ill will.
Not that relationships are in any way easy. Human interaction takes a good deal of effort. And it really doesn’t matter what type of relationship you form with a person it will take effort to sustain it. Really caring about someone is a choice. In a perfect world a person might find someone who ‘gets them’ and then reap the benefits. Read any sort news and you will discover the world is far from perfect.
People lie. There is an actual study that claims a person will lie an average of two to three times in a ten minute conversation. Why? Because women like to make people feel good and men like to make themselves look better. The moral of my story is to be yourself. I don’t want to hear what someone thinks I want to hear.
Being able to have a healthy relationship with anyone begins at being able to be honest with them and more importantly yourself. It requires you to respect yourself. The minute you can look yourself in the mirror and truly like the reflection is the moment of clarity needed to find that special connection. And I don’t just mean romantically. A true friend is not going to ‘cheat on your friendship.’ The friend that can show tact in your interaction, that can communicate openly and freely without jabs at your character, that loves you for your faults and shortcomings, and that works to stay a part of your life… that is a pure and true relationship.
It is this model relationship that has the potential to transcend into a loving romantic endeavor. This is why I believe Cosmo is onto something and this should be a wake-up call to us all. If you are not capable of being a loving friend don’t expect to be capable of being a loving like-partner. Love and acceptance does not come from meaningless sex and trying to use this as a catalyst into a relationship will only get you burned. Inside and quite possibly out.
“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not.” – Dr. Suess
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We are living in a self-promoting, "Fast Food" era, my friend. That is, an era in which people are self-absorbed and career-obsessed, lacking social skills and any regard for those surrounding them. This, sadly, pours over into romantic relationships.
Because society is so technologically-based, people as a result are unsocialized. They are non-confrontational and they can't communicate. They can't articulate their emotions or say what they want. And the maturity rate slows down. There is little sense of social responsibility, respect for others, accountability, or even tact.
It's all very reprehensible and sad. For as technologically advanced as our society is, we've reverted back to our guilt-free, morality-lacking animal instincts. Very, very sad indeed.
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